Yahoo7answer: He left me, what to do?

Question
Should I ask to why he broke up with me? I am 18 turning 19 this year I been with my pisces man for 3 years I fell deeply in love at first sight with, his 22 now and he took off last friday to another town and dumped me on 21st june sunday and said he loved me and missed me but he wants us to be apart and says he can't do it anymore. The reasons to this I understand but also don't understand at the same time but taking off into another town while his mum is dying is so childish.I thought poor thing I will just leave him alone because he won't talk to me no more and treats me like I don't exist now and he won't talk to anyone else really.Last thursday I went on his laptop just to get files off it that were mine that I really needed while he was at work and I found interesting videos of him naked and stripping in the bathroom used by his web cam and this was after the day he dumped me, I think he might of left me for someone else.Than I started to ask myself questions to why he broke up with me I wanted to ask but I won'tThan yesterday his family said to me that once his mum is dead his taking all his stuff and leaving to the town he left to for the past 2 weekends and never come back, he also said to his 3 of brothers and sisters by the time he come back they won't even remeber him and the youngest is 13.Than I still have questions should I ask? or don't worry about it?somepeople saying his gone lonney or crazy but I think his just confused. I still love him

My Answer:
Oh babe, It's time for change, and as when butterflies step out of the cocoon to show their beautiful wings or when a flower leaves the bud to look for the sun, it can look a little strange to start with. But we all know the result will be lovely. Your ex is in pain. He is in grief - somewhere within - and he can't handle anything at the moment. He probably flirts with others. It's change time for him as well, and he's not as connected to his emotions as you are, so he just acts out in a random impulsive way. I feel so sorry for him. This is not about you... Do you love him? Really? If you do, tell him in a quiet way that you want his best and that if he want a hug you are here. But take this moment to really figure out who you are and what you want from life. You are so valuable, you deserve to live your life to the fullest, to be that colorful butterfly dancing around, free and careless. Happy. Sometimes our questions are better left unanswered. You know the truth. You don't have to ask. His decision has little to do with you, and for you it's about finding your path now. I want you to watch this movie and start creating/finding the person you want to be: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xlOxYdgyD...

xoCarolin, The Love Coach

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