Do you have a love savings account?

Question
Girls, if you reject a guy, is there anything he could do to change your mind? I had my heart broken recently. I've known this girl for a few months and really liked her. She was smart, funny, articulate, pretty and we had so much in common. She still had feeling for her loser ex-boyfriend. I told her about my feelings. Her response, "leave me alone." I've been in a bad place ever since. Listening to sad music, additively working out and being antisocial. That's very unlike my happy-go-lucky self. I think about her constantly. If you can't tell from this post, I'm pretty sentimental and introspective. I guess this question goes out to the girls. If you don't have feeling for a guy, is there anything he could do to change that? Sending flowers, writing a note, whatever.

My Answer
Oh Jordan... You are lovely and you will find a fabulous loving girlfriend when it is time. Even if this girl is "perfect" because she ticks a lot of boxes she is bad for you, because she makes you unhappy. Love is not about the People in the relationship - it is about the energy. It is how it FEELS, not what our brains tell us. And you do not feel good right now, do you? See every relationship in the same way as you see a budget. Are you earning as much as you are spending? Do you have "a savings account" where you have love and positive memories to take out in bad times? Make sure you don't live on your credit card, because having a debt in love is just as destructive as when it happens with your money balance... Make sure you are happy. This is YOUR decision. If she will come back? Who knows... If you have a light hearted happy approach and shine because you feel good even without her, you will attract :) Love is not always easy and people can't be controlled. But you can at least be in charge of your reactions. Wish you everything that is good - and a big "love bank account"